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Re: Girl problems

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move somewhere far away. so easy to meet people when you're the new guy

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you boys don't know the first thing about girl problems....sheeeesh
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Re: Girl problems

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Alright dude...

The first thing you need to do is make friends, find something new to do, something engaging, and something you can be happy about. You made the first big mistake of any skramz kid: you made a girl your life. It happens, but now you have to deal with the result of it.

You can't just go find another girl. It's not that simple. Eventually you will be able to, but it's too soon.

It's going to be a very slow progression, but eventually you are going to open your eyes and say, "I'm having fun... I'm having fun without her. I forgot that I could do that." That's what you need to do right now. Go see a show. Go to a different city. Meet new people... You really need to make a friend. It's really hard to get over a girl without a friend. Sure, first you sit in your room alone for a while, but after a while, you HAVE to go out and find something to do that is fun.

Next thing you need to do after you start having fun: Stop longing for her to come back and be with you. Fuck that bitch. She hurt you. She took everything for granted and threw it all away when you would have done anything for her. She's a stupid cunt. She made a big mistake, and you don't need her anymore. You're having fun, and she may be living her life without you now, but she's always going to feel hollow and empty. Fuck her. Be angry. This is the only way I've found to remove myself from loving a girl into, "You ruined everything and I deserve so much better than you."

Other girls will come after that. I promise.... Well, if you stop being such an asocial cunt. Join OKCupid if you have to.
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VitiligoJackson wrote:you boys don't know the first thing about girl problems....sheeeesh
Shyeah.
FANTASTIC WOUND wrote:And I was all, "Don't quote the bard to me, you bitch.
I'm sorry, but I laughed really hard at this and thought it was all a joke until your second or third post.

Tim, why would you want this woman back? So you can be codependent and asocial again? I'm sure it's a comforting feeling having someone as opposed to no one, even friends, but this doesn't sound like a big "step up" to me. You'd just be back to where you started, and when it fails again where will you be then? Even more removed from other social interaction, that's where.

No girl is this special. Just cut your losses and move on.

To me, the saddest part is you don't have any friends. That interaction you described at a show is kind of fucking with me. I can picture you there, all alone, awkwardly talking to someone, only to have them leave. I imagine some puppy dog look in your eyes at this point and maybe doing an aw-shucks kicking motion with your hands in your pocket. I have to ask, why do your former friends not want you around? Did you do something to them?

You sure you don't have any friends from way back you can't reconnect with? Sometimes I don't see people for years at a time and when we do start hanging around again it's like nothing changed.

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that's quite possibly the dumbest thing ever. i don't think i've ever heard someone ACTUALLY USE saetia lyrics in a real life situation that wasn't a joke.

just try to remember "time heals all wounds" every day you'll think about her less and less. and then one day, you just wont think about her anymore.
life goes on, whether you want it to or not; and your life, too, will go on. you'll be fine, i promise.
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girls don't like me anymore, how do i get my swagger back?
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Re: Girl problems

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Pete > You wrote:
FANTASTIC WOUND wrote:And I was all, "Don't quote the bard to me, you bitch.
I'm sorry, but I laughed really hard at this and thought it was all a joke until your second or third post.

Tim, why would you want this woman back? So you can be codependent and asocial again? I'm sure it's a comforting feeling having someone as opposed to no one, even friends, but this doesn't sound like a big "step up" to me. You'd just be back to where you started, and when it fails again where will you be then? Even more removed from other social interaction, that's where.

No girl is this special. Just cut your losses and move on.

To me, the saddest part is you don't have any friends. That interaction you described at a show is kind of fucking with me. I can picture you there, all alone, awkwardly talking to someone, only to have them leave. I imagine some puppy dog look in your eyes at this point and maybe doing an aw-shucks kicking motion with your hands in your pocket. I have to ask, why do your former friends not want you around? Did you do something to them?

You sure you don't have any friends from way back you can't reconnect with? Sometimes I don't see people for years at a time and when we do start hanging around again it's like nothing changed.
Yeah, that's pretty much how the shows go. Nobody wants me around because I'm a drunk. I'm not loud or belligerent and am generally quite pleasant, but I'm always drunk.

As for the girl, despite all the problems we had, I feel like she's the only person who ever understood and accepted me for who I am. That's why I want her back.
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Re: Girl problems

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don't you know any alcoholics? if people don't like you because you're a drunk it sounds like you need to know more drunks.

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Re: Girl problems

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If you're actually an alcoholic maybe you should try AA. That could help you meet some people who are probably also in some shitty situations and connect with them.

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Re: Girl problems

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ew, don't go to AA. that is some straight bullshit.

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